Attract the right lover for you
- Frea O'Brien
- Jul 9
- 12 min read
Updated: Jul 15
Your Life Path Number reveals the qualities of the lover that has your back in life and business.
One of the most overlooked factors influencing your business growth, health and income is your choice of life partner. While the right partner can act as a source of grounding, inspiration and expansive support, the wrong one can subtly, yet profoundly, erode your confidence, vitality and long-term business success.
This isn't simply about romantic compatibility, it's about energetic alignment, psychological safety and whether the relationship creates wind beneath your wings or a ball and chain around your ankles.
Can you mix business and pleasure?
As a business numerologist I have been very black and white over the past twenty years when it comes to offering business insight exclusively. I've stayed well clear of giving love advice. I’m not a relationship expert. And it feels unethical to be looking into the soul of a relationship without the permission of both parties. To be honest, it’s easier to be directive about business growth. Businesses are more predictable to control!
For clients that ask me about love relationships I’ve always fallen back on this bottom-line: ‘Become the One to attract the One’. Afterall, if you become the best version of yourself, then by default you set a standard and attract others that resonate with your vibe.
But as the years have gone by, marked by the weathering of my own love-life, the ups and downs, I’m starting to see more clearly that your life partner is actually intrinsic to your business success.
In recent years I have sat in women’s circles witnessing women alchemising the pain of broken relationships into purposeful power. I have sat in business workshops where women beat themselves up for not being good enough mothers, business owners, friends, daughters, wives, pillars of the community, social media influencers….Oblivious to their God-given right to catch their breath and ask for support from their other halves or co-parents?!
I have given space to girlfriends so they could let rip for hours about the imbalance of domestic chores.
It is no wonder that I witness, from the wings, my own daughter and her friends, in their early twenties, prioritising career, travel, health, friends, family….and maybe a lover…but only if that love interest aligns with their bigger plans.
Are women business owners better off single?
‘Professionally ambitious women really only have two options: a super-supportive partner or no partner at all. Anything in between ends up being a morale and career sapping morass.’ (Avivah Wittneberg-Cox, Harvard Business Review.)
SAGE 2024 reported that ‘Single women appear to be higher in their overall well-being compared to men, higher life satisfaction…lower desire for a partner.’
Is it any wonder when the Guardian reported that in the UK ‘nearly half of working age women provide 48 hours a week of unpaid childcare compared to 17 hours for men’.
The Office of National Statistics for the UK Government noted that women perform an average 26 hours per week of unpaid work, (cooking, childcare, cleaning). 60% more than men. And that mothers carry 71% of the mental load, e.g. organising schedules, tasks and planning.
These imbalances severely limit women’s time, energy, career focus and earning potential. (Neuroscience News.)
Should women choose between having a business or a beau?
My clients are 90% women business owners. I’ve seen first hand that women running six-figure+businesses are working a minimum of 40 hours with seven-figure owners working 50 to 70 hours a week.
Being employed takes effort. But running a business takes everything! And that’s why it can feel too much unless you learn how to build with boundaries, delegate and lead with soul. But still so many of us do set up our own businesses, even against a backdrop of juggling the other second unpaid invisible job of being the household handmaiden.
Why on earth would we choose to take on these work extremes?
Clearly we are running businesses, not because we have less to carry, but because it’s the only space where we get to carry it our way.
The ‘traditional 9 to 5’ employment was never built for us. It was built for a man with a wife at home.
Running our own businesses offers flexibility.
Running our own business is the only path to wealth without permission. We choose our pay grade. There's no need to grovel, armed with a 20 page business case, as to why we deserve a pay rise.
Running our own business is the ultimate SOVEREIGN POWER.
IT IS OUR BUSINESS.
But Love does wins the day
And yet, the genre that consistently tops book sales for fiction is Romance.
Well – ‘fiction’ says it all. Lol
Ok, so I’m going to rein my cynical head in, because the fact is that as humans we’re wired for connection, intimacy, emotional safety and shared purpose.
We are wired for love.
But wanting love, (I do!), doesn’t mean settling for a relationship that costs you your power, peace or potential. Even I, a hard headed, yet soft-hearted, business numerologist, believe in love. Deep, sacred sovereign love. The kind that celebrates my success, not competes with it.
That’s my sacred standard. Until then, I choose wholeness.
The Energetics of Expansion
Until you attract the right one from your wholeness, you’re much better off preserving the peace of your queendom.
You see, in business you’re not just executing tasks; you’re channelling vision, intuition and life force. Your capacity to grow your income and impact is intricately linked to your emotional state, energy levels and sense of inner safety. The right life partner amplifies these. The wrong life partner drains them.
A misaligned relationship may not seem “bad” on the surface. They might be kind, funny, or “supportive” in theory. But if they don’t truly see, honour and celebrate your sacred mission—if they subtly belittle your ambitions, interrupt your focus, or demand emotional labour that exhausts your creative energy, your business will suffer.
Especially for spiritually attuned women, such as healers, seers and creative visionaries, relationships are not just emotional containers but spiritual vessels. The wrong partner disrupts the channel. They clog the flow of inspiration. They dilute clarity with chaos.
And the cost is far greater than we’re often willing to admit.
Impact on Growth: A Glass Ceiling at Home
Many of us aspire to scale to six or seven figures, write a book, become a thought leader, or lead global movements. But without an aligned life partner, these dreams often remain dormant.
Why?
Because quantum growth requires safety, spaciousness and spiritual intimacy. It requires a partner who can hold your evolution without shrinking in its presence.
A partner who doesn't confuse your expansion with abandonment.
A partner who delights in your light instead of being dimmed by it.
True success requires integration. If your personal life is a source of conflict, guilt, or fragmentation, your business will inevitably reflect that tension.
The Right Love Relationship is a Business Asset
This isn’t about needing a life partner to succeed. You are whole and powerful on your own. But for those in intimate relationships, the partnership must support, not suppress, your mission.
The right partner:
Celebrates your brilliance, not just tolerates it
Holds space for your fears and visions without control
Shares your values of purpose, growth and contribution
Honours your need for solitude, sovereignty and spiritual work
Sees your business not as a hobby, but as a calling
When that alignment exists, your energy multiplies. Your voice strengthens. Your wealth expands. And your presence becomes magnetic, not just in business, but in every room you walk into.
Choose sovereign alignment within yourself. And then the right partner will appear.
Why Life Path Numbers Matter in Love and Business
Your Life Path Number is derived from your birth date and represents your most prosperous route in life - the essence of your personality, talents and lessons in this lifetime.
Romantic compatibility isn't about being the same. It's about energetic synergy. Some Life Path Numbers spark passion, others provide grounding and some offer karmic growth. For conscious women building empires, choosing a partner isn’t just about attraction, it’s about alignment.
Your romantic partner is either a mirror, a multiplier, or a misalignment. Numerology shows you which one. Identify the right Life Partner for you before they either enhance your life or cost you your heart and your business energy.
How to Calculate the Life Path Number
Use the full birthdate. Reduce each component (day, month, year) to a single digit (except Master Numbers 11, 22, 33), then sum.
Example: May 10, 1976
May = 5
10 = 1 + 0 = 1
1976 = 1 + 9 + 7 + 6 = 23 → 2 + 3 = 5
Life Path = 5 + 1 + 5 = 11 → Master Number 11
The Lover Compatibility Matrix: Life Path by Life Path
Let’s explore how each Life Path Number connects in love. The goal isn't to label relationships as “good” or “bad” but to understand the dynamic so you can work with the energy.
For women building soul-aligned empires and sacred relationships
Life Path 1 – The Leader in Love
Soul Essence:
Independent, ambitious and visionary. You crave a partner who respects your sovereignty and doesn't try to dim your light.
Strengths in Love:
Bold, loyal, protective
Encouraging and empowering
Passionate and sexually magnetic
Best Matches:
3 – Brings fun and expression; energising creative duo
5 – Adds excitement and adventure without domination
6 – Offers emotional maturity and grounding for your leadership
2 – Tender, supportive, and loving, if they don’t get too clingy
Watch Out:
Over-dominating softer partners
Attracting codependents who can't hold your energy
Feeling stifled by those who fear your ambition
Business Impact:
Aligned love keeps you confident and unstoppable. Misaligned love makes you shrink or sabotage success.
Life Path 2 – The Lover-Diplomat
Soul Essence:
Romantic, intuitive and emotionally attuned. You long for deep, soul-based partnership with mutual respect and affection.
Strengths in Love:
Loyal, loving, gentle
Emotionally intelligent and supportive
Deeply sensual and attentive
Best Matches:
6 – Devoted and nurturing; shared love of connection
9 – Purposeful and kind; encourages your emotional depth
1 – Can be protective and confident if respectful
11 – Shares your sensitivity and spiritual vibration
Watch Out:
Losing yourself in over-giving
Attracting takers or dominators
Fear of conflict leads to resentment buildup
Business Impact:
When emotionally safe, you radiate grace. Misaligned love distracts you from your own goals or clouds your intuition.
Life Path 3 – The Creative Lover
Soul Essence:
Joyful, expressive, magnetic. In love, you seek fun, connection and heartfelt communication.
Strengths in Love:
Affectionate and playful
Inspires joy and creativity
Deeply romantic and emotionally expressive
Best Matches:
5 – Adventurous and spontaneous; match your zest
6 – Grounding without dimming your sparkle
1 – Bold and dynamic with mutual admiration
7 – Mysterious attraction and soulful conversations
Watch Out:
Attracting partners who judge or limit your light
Avoiding emotional depth or commitment
Overdramatising small emotional setbacks
Business Impact:
Aligned love expands your voice and magnetism. Misaligned love drains your joy and dims your brand energy.
Life Path 4 – The Determined Builder
Soul Essence:
Reliable, loyal, steady. In love, you seek safety, commitment and shared values. You’re not interested in games.
Strengths in Love:
Loyal to the core
Protective and consistent
Deep emotional integrity
Best Matches:
6 – Harmonious, devoted, values family and service
8 – Mutual drive and shared long-term vision
2 – Emotionally nourishing and supportive
7 – Adds mystery and spiritual grounding
Watch Out:
Over-controlling or overly rigid expectations
Emotional withholding
Avoiding emotional risk in early stages
Business Impact:
Stable love empowers you to build strong foundations. Chaos in love distracts and creates inner tension.
Life Path 5 – The Passionate Explorer
Soul Essence:
Freedom-loving, sensual and curious. You need a lover who is your equal in spontaneity, not a leash-holder.
Strengths in Love:
Playful, adventurous, sexy
Emotionally flexible and fun
Magnetic and charming
Best Matches:
1 – Bold and exciting with strong chemistry
3 – Creative, fun, and non-restrictive
7 – Deep thinker who fascinates you
9 – Inspires your evolution and soul expansion
Watch Out:
Attracting partners who try to control you
Avoiding emotional depth or commitment
Using sex or thrill to cover loneliness
Business Impact:
When free to be yourself, your charisma drives success. In toxic love, you become restless and scattered.
Life Path 6 – The Devoted Lover
Soul Essence:
Devoted, nurturing, and sensual. In love, you crave deep connection, harmony, and shared beauty.
Strengths in Love:
Romantic, loyal, emotionally rich
Protective and service-oriented
Deeply committed to sacred union
Best Matches:
2 – Emotionally aligned and supportive
4 – Stable, responsible, values commitment
9 – Inspired by shared service and higher love
33 – Soul-level devotion and mutual spiritual service
Watch Out:
Over-giving or martyrdom
Trying to "fix" or rescue partners
Becoming bitter if love feels unreciprocated
Business Impact:
You blossom in love that honours your heart. Misaligned love dims your shine and causes emotional overwhelm.
Life Path 7 – The Soul Seeker in Love
Soul Essence:
Mysterious, spiritual, and cerebral. In love, you desire depth, solitude and sacred connection, not surface-level attraction.
Strengths in Love:
Deep, intuitive, and thoughtful
Emotionally complex and spiritually aware
Fascinating and enigmatic to partners
Best Matches:
9 – Shared soul mission and intuitive connection
5 – Brings fun and awakens your sensuality
2 – Gentle and patient; helps open your heart
4 – Grounds your inner world and offers calm
Watch Out:
Emotional unavailability
Retreating or disappearing emotionally
Overthinking rather than opening up
Business Impact:
Inspiring love fuels your spiritual power. Draining love makes you withdraw, doubt, or overanalyse your worth.
Life Path 8 – The Power Partner
Soul Essence:
Ambitious, magnetic, and commanding. You’re here to lead and love must enhance, not compete with, your empire.
Strengths in Love:
Loyal and protective
Sexy and dominant in the right ways
Generous and empowering
Best Matches:
4 – Trustworthy and values stability
2 – Emotionally grounding and respectful
6 – Loving, loyal, and supports your goals
1 – Powerful match if egos don’t clash
Watch Out:
Attracting passive or overly needy partners
Overworking and neglecting love
Dominating instead of connecting
Business Impact:
You rise faster when your love life feels stable and respected. Drama at home affects your money frequency.
Life Path 9 – The Gentle Guiding Hand
Soul Essence:
Compassionate, idealistic, deeply emotional. You seek soulful, humanitarian partnerships and need to be seen beyond the surface.
Strengths in Love:
Passionate and poetic
Spiritual and romantic
Emotionally generous and forgiving
Best Matches:
6 – Loving, emotionally aligned, and devoted
2 – Soft, nurturing, and tuned into your emotions
11 – Spiritual and visionary match
3 – Creative, fun, and emotionally expressive
Watch Out:
Getting lost in fantasy or unrequited love
Attracting emotionally unstable partners
Avoiding boundaries in the name of compassion
Business Impact:
Heart-aligned love unlocks your visionary power. Wounded love creates emotional leakage and self-doubt.
Life Path 11 – The Intuitive Lover & Visionary Muse
Soul Essence
Highly intuitive, emotionally rich and spiritually magnetic. You crave depth, devotion and soul-level union. Your romantic connections must match your higher calling, not distract from it.
Strengths in Love:
Deep romantic devotion and spiritual passion
Highly sensual when safe and seen
Magnetic, mysterious and deeply inspiring to others
You often dream your soulmate before meeting them
Best Matches:
2 – Emotional resonance, intuitive flow, sacred softness.
6 – Shared devotion, spiritual maturity and unconditional love.
9 – Purpose aligned, humanitarian love, big mission, big heart.
7 – Soul-deep connection, mystical wisdom and mental stimulation
33 – Spiritual partnership at the highest frequency, healing the world together
Watch Out:
Getting caught up in chaotic unpredictable relationships that disrupt your inner peace
Burning yourself out if trying too hard to be seen in an environment where money comes first
Watching from the wings whilst others steal the glory and undermine you backstage by being too controlling or dismissive of your spiritual sensitivity
Business Impact
When your relationship honours your spiritual path, you radiate inspiration and attract aligned clients and opportunities effortlessly. Misaligned love (especially with partners who don’t “get” your frequency) leads to self-doubt, fatigue, and spiritual burnout.
Life Path 22 – The Master Builder in Love
Soul Essence:
You’re here to turn dreams into reality on a grand scale. In love, you desire a partner who sees your vision and supports your mission.
Strengths in Love:
Visionary and reliable
Loyal and grounded
Spiritual foundation with material mastery
Protective, deeply committed, quietly intense
Best Matches:
4 – Grounds your power with mutual values, work ethic and reliability.
6 – Brings heart, harmony and loyalty; builds a sacred home base with you.
9 – Inspires your higher mission and adds compassion to your legacy.
11 – Spiritual soulmate potential with shared elevation and inspiration.
Watch out:
Protect your boundaries from people that are too unpredictable and chaotic for your focused energy.
Giving your power away to others that share your drive but could wear you down with power clashes or material over-focus.
Remember to have fun and enjoy the moment.
Business Impact:
You thrive with a partner who respects your long-term vision and holds the energetic container for your success. Misaligned love distracts you from your soul mission and creates subtle sabotage.
Life Path 33 – The Master Teacher in Love
Soul Essence:
You are here to raise the vibration of the planet through love, devotion and creative service. In love, you’re a passionate healer and natural guide but you must be equally nourished to avoid burnout or martyrdom.
Strengths in Love:
Deeply loving, nurturing, wise
Emotionally and spiritually generous
Magnetically healing. People feel better in your presence
Sensual, mystical, and intuitive
Best Matches:
6 – A divine match: shared love for service, family, beauty and harmony.
2 – Emotional soulmate who supports your giving nature and mirrors your heart.
9 – Purpose-aligned, idealistic, and visionary; supports your spiritual mission.
11 – Shared intuitive frequency and emotional depth.
Watch out:
Being around people that are too wild or unreliable may trigger your over-giving tendencies. People that live to work will be too uninspiring and rigid for you because your heart leads the way. Just make sure people don’t take advantage of that.
Business Impact:
You are magnetic when in emotional alignment. You must receive as much as you give or your business becomes martyrdom.
Final Thoughts: When Two Becomes One, Love Can Move Mountains
As a woman in business, you are not just running a company. You are anchoring a new paradigm. That means your relationships must reflect your sacred standards.
Your body knows. Your soul knows. And your business will show you when something’s off.
Choosing a partner is not a side note to your success. It is a central key. And when you align with love that nourishes your expansion, not negotiates with it, you unlock the fullest expression of who you were always meant to be.
The right relationship doesn’t just support your business.
It liberates your destiny.
Call to Action
Are you ready to become the One to attract the One?
Book The Clarity Service with Frea O’Brien today.
Discover your Prosperity Code which reveals your brilliance, your Personal Year Number for clarity on a soul-aligned action and your Prosperity Map which shows you how to become the best version of your business self over the next 12 months. And then you’ll find it’s a pleasure doing business.
Start creating your prosperous, life, business and relationships from the truth of who you are.
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